I know much has been said about it. Books and blogs, talk show coverage and The Secret was all over it like a rash. And you can understand why. It’s preachy, it’s old and c’mon do we really want another fix it? But there are no short cuts.
I am talking about ATTITUDE. Ok, don’t roll your eyes. Not yet at least.
It’s not going to make you rich overnight or cure your relationship maladies or figure out the answer to your mid life crisis.
What it does give you is an emotional, mental and spiritual workout so you can go back into life’s boxing ring.
I was at my favorite Costco off Research Blvd in North Austin, the other day. Yes I go there a lot and spend more time buying books than the bulk groceries. I like Costco, despite the fact they need traffic signals and a cop to monitor the rush hour on weekends. Lee (let’s call him that) is a friendly african american middle aged man who is either at the bakery or at the fish aisle. He always has a crowd around him. He has a huge smile, will recognize you (may not know your name) and say something positive. Lee is part of my Costco experience. He and some of the other folk who seem like they are genuinely enjoying their job make my trolling that huge warehouse enjoyable and a confirmed repeat customer. I have been a Costco member for 5 years now.
Take Jill at Southwest Airlines. We all trudge in…some of us traveling for work, some of us for family and as we get ready for another flight, she takes the standard announcement and turns it into a limerick and adds some show tunes and suddenly we are smiling. We look at the strangers around us and maybe exchange a few words.
Or my cabbie who tells me that he is a retired police officer who shares an anecdote about his days patrolling the New York neighborhood.
Or my daughter’s new school bus driver who invited all the kids and their families on his bus route to a pizza dinner last December. Don sends us an invitation, first of its kind, saying that he would pay the first $50 and over 20 families turn up crowding River Hills Pizza and causing a restaurant overflow. Who would have thought that one small gesture would be greeted with so much heart. The previous driver was a surly man who couldn’t manage his students and would brake frequently to get their attention.
The beauty about attitude is it’s completely reciprocal. Like begets love and dislike can snowball into something ugly, and unleash in extreme cases civil unrest.
At the end of the day, all these folks that I have written about struggle as hard if not harder with the boulder on their back. However they choose not to carry it on their face or in their words.
Signing off with some fun facts
The average woman smiles about 62 times a day!
A man? Only 8!
Kids laugh around 400 times a day.
Grown-ups just 15