Re Fuse

There is in the heart of acceptance, the beat of refusal.

To refuse is to decline anything that continually goes against your well being.

To say yes to wellness might mean saying no to the extra glass of wine or the third cup of coffee or the chocolate bar that is languishing in your fridge.

To say yes to wellness might mean saying no to the same old argument that you keep having with yourself, or with your partner or your children or your parents or your friends.

To say yes to wellness might mean saying no to the many hours you spend on social media poring over an endless feed of other people’s lives feeling dissatisfied about your own.

To say yes to wellness might mean saying no to the business that you started that is draining you of your good intentions and your bank balance.

To say yes to wellness might mean saying no to the many long hours you spend at work trying to climb higher forfeiting the chance to catch up with your family instead.

To say yes to wellness might mean facing the fear of insignificance knowing that your presence is more than enough to overcome your absence.

To say yes to wellness might mean facing the different ways we have willingly and unknowingly sabotaged ourselves.

When we find the courage to refuse, we start the journey to {re fuse} our lives in the many ways where we return to the world fuller and more embodied.

And in returning to ourselves we get another chance to move into the bigger arc and the fuller circle of our life.

Source: Olympus Digital Camera Photographer: Javi Corpa


Art: Vladimir Kush

I have been working with this word through the weekend and unbeknownst to me this has been a theme since last October.

According to the dictionary, being reluctant is to be “unwilling,” 1660s, from Latin reluctantem (nominative reluctans), present participle of reluctari “to struggle against, resist, make opposition,”

Reluctant, literally, struggling back from, implies some degree of struggle either with others who are inciting us on, or between our own inclination and some strong motive, as sense of duty, whether it operates as an impelling or as a restraining influence. [Century Dictionary]

On further contemplation, to be reluctant is a struggle externally as well as internally.

Externally, we drag our feet when we are pulled towards something that we are not quite ready to make a decision yet. For those of us who are tired of the accelerated pace of our world, where everyone talks faster, acts immediately and where hustling is some sort of admirable quality, reluctance shows up in various forms.

Sometimes it shows up to self sabotage or procrastinate. Sometimes it is in our best interests to preserve rushing hastily into realms we are not yet ready to undertake. It is born out of the fatigue of the past and in the confusion of transition. Sometimes reluctance is rooted in a deeper intuition around the importance of right timing.

Last Saturday, poet David Whyte spoke to us about reluctance and what it meant to each of us. How we could stop running away from it and instead sit with our struggle. For in our very resistance lies the way through the current that is swirling around us. In our ability to recognize our own reluctance, we develop greater compassion for the suffering of others.

All great movements, all inspired creations were birthed in the cauldron of opposition. Ideation and innovation spring from the push back to status quo.

If you are dragging your feet, feeling generally disobedient, it could be a good time to examine which area of your life lacks luster or where tiredness has robbed you of your inner vision.